I was at a total loss for what to do. My daughter, Charis, had never been obstinate or rebellious – oh, there was that one time.
But suddenly it was like Invasion of the Body Snatchers. Some alien had taken over my daughter and she seemed to ignore anything I asked her to do.
I tried what had always worked before. Nothing.
I even tried my infamous “that face”. No change.
She was probably a little old for spanking,** but I thought I might have to go back to that as the only way to get her attention.
But, fortunately, my wise wife stepped in. “Rick, I don’t think she understands what you want her to do. Let me talk to her.”
Jana did and Charis immediately trotted off happily complying with my request.
What happened here?
I’m not sure the term “one size fits all” applies to anything but I know it doesn’t apply to kids. What works with one may not work with another and may not even work with the same child at another time.
It’s a lot like steering a car. You never get it right so you can just forget it and take a nap. You have to constantly adjust – a little to the left, back to the right, here comes a curve, slow down, speed up.
Parenting requires constantly adjusting, constantly paying attention to what’s going on and steering accordingly so we can navigate this parenting experience with a minimum amount of crashes.
Take the Kid Quiz below to see how well you know the road (your child).
Know the state of your flocks, and put your heart into caring for your herds,
** How old is “too old” to spank? Check out Chapter 5 of Spare the Rod.
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